I think we can safely come to the conclusion that being a better person or being better at something resonates in our mind more than we would care to admit. It haunts us when we fail at something we expected to do flawlessly or at least without failing miserably in the presence of people who expect better from us and are looking up to us for guidance.
When our heads hit the pillow at night, our thoughts run through all that happened during the day. Then we begin to doubt ourselves, if we are really cut out for this job of raising well adjusted kids who are watching our every move with keen eyes and will most likely act the way we do. Can you relate?
What is Self-Reflection?
It means doing an impartial rumination in our minds of the tears, tantrums, yells and spanking of the day to determine how and if we could have handled them differently and perhaps, the outcome would have been different too. Healthy self examination does not include constant self judgment that can lead to fear and hopelessness.
Benefits
- It helps us get to know ourselves better - our strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, feelings, stressors, values, ideas, personality, etc. When we know yourself, we will acknowledge the things that we don't know and will have an open mind to learn from our misdeeds. We become self aware.
- It reduces stress because we get to know the signs and are better equipped to handle or avert it.
- We become better acquainted with our children's feelings and responses to certain situations thereby getting to know them more.
- It will help us have a mind of our own, be more confident in ourself, have independent thoughts feelings and actions without always relying on other people.
- It forces us to do an honest self-assessment instead of playing the blame game. We get to know our role and contribution and are better able to accept responsibility for our actions.
- It help us to be successful because we are freed to focus on our strengths and handle our weaknesses.
- We can take care of our daily affairs without the frustration that usually accompanies us because we are relaxed and armed with the proper knowledge.
- We become happier and more positive about the outcome of our actions and our children will also benefit from a calm mom and will be less prone to tantrums.
- It also spikes our creativity because it presents us with better alternative for taking care of our children and homes.
Final thoughts
Self reflection alone is not enough. We must be willing to do the work. This article will give you a great start. Keep practicing.
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