It can come easily to any mom to lose friends who are not actively in her circle because her days are filled already. You can't even go to the toilet alone and having some time to yourself is a luxury how much more to talk about keeping track of friends? You can wake up one day to realise with a sinking feeling in your stomach that your circle of friends are gone and you miss the camaraderie you once had with them. This usually happens when your children have reached their teenage years and have begun to develop a sense of independence.
Having friends is essential for we moms because we do need adult conversation apart from our spouses from time to time. You get to have a support system whether it is with other moms or single ladies. Some families have had to move far away from friends and it has become difficult to make new friends or meet with friends we have known for a long time. It is not an easy task to make friends who can relate to you or your status as a wife and mother, but it is still advisable that you give it a shot.
I cannot even imagine where I would be today were it not for that handful of friends who have given me a heart full of joy. Let's face it, friends make life a lot more fun - Charles R. Swindoll
Why moms need friendship
Friendship is an important aspect of
self-care for moms to refill be at their best for their families.
- Friends are available to celebrate with you when times are good and provide support when things go awry.
- Having friends keep you from being or feeling isolated and lonely.
- You also have the chance to offer companionship to other people.
- Friendship gives you a sense of belonging which fills an important emotional need and frees you from depression.
- Having friends who practice and promote positive behaviour can be beneficial to you because they will encourage you to do the same.
- Friends help you cope with serious trauma such as the death of a loved one, loss of a job, divorce, etc.
- As you get busier with life and responsibilities, your friendships make you feel nurtured and validated.
- If your friends are close by, you can carpool, arrange playdates for your children and have a community that looks after the wellbeing of your family.
- Your friends can keep you informed about the best shopping deals whether for food or clothes and you can buy in bulk and share amongst yourselves.
- Studies have it that adults with meaningful relationships live longer than their peers.
Tips for making friends
Your motherhood journey may encourage you to tilt towards making mom friends only and it's not a bad thing. It's all about your friendship and you should do what works for you. However, making and keeping friends takes time and effort, that said, these are a few ways to make friends:
- Get to meet your neighbours and introduce yourself to them.
- Reach out to people you had connected with at a social gathering.
- Get to know other people in your church group.
- Accept invitations to events around you.
- You can form strong connections with people at work.
- Join a chat group and online community to relieve feelings of loneliness.
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